A LETTER FROM BONNIE FINNEY TO ALL BLUE RIBBON
HEROES
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NO! It isn't true. It
simply cannot be true. They are telling me that my grandson is dead, but
there must be some mistake. But deep in my heart, I knew it was true for I
have not seen him in weeks. It's been so long since I sat by his side in the
hospital. Of course I knew something was wrong as I sat there. I saw the fear
on his face, the bruises on his body, and the healing cigarette burns on his
hands. His doctor did not believe my daughter's story "he fell in
slippery water in the bathtub." I felt sick…I didn't understand. Are my
granddaughters all right?
I only had one child. She was a beautiful little girl - the light of our eyes. We knew she had entered into a stormy marriage, for we brought her home several times in the 5 years it lasted. We suspected heavy use of drugs BUT in those five years, 3 beautiful healthy children had been born. I loved them dearly and they loved me. The children were 16 months, 3 years and 4 years. |
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After the ordeal at the hospital, my grandson was placed in foster care for 3
weeks. He cried when they came to return him to his mother. He told his
foster mother, "My mamma don't love me" and begged to stay. I ached
for his dilemma, but I wasn't physically able to care for him. The courts
believed that home was the best place for him, but I knew better and I told,
no I begged them, not to return him to his mother. But I was overruled - my
grandmother's instinct didn't count.
I never saw Bubba again. My 16 month old granddaughter was hospitalized after being beaten severely her leg broken in four places, and her hand burned from the tips of her fingers to her wrist. It was only then that the "search was on" for Bubba. We learned he had been killed, wrapped in a sheet, stuffed into a toolbox, and dumped into the Dismal Swamp 3 months earlier. My grandchildren had suffered and battled so much throughout their young lives that it sickened me. My life was turned into physical and mental chaos. |
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My
efforts to understand became a plea to stop abusing children. I tied a
blue ribbon on my van antenna to make people wonder. It caught on
locally with restaurants, businesses, police and TV and radio stations
supporting me in my efforts to make it a real awareness campaign.
Why blue? I intend never to forget the battered, bruised bodies of my grandchildren. Blue serves as a constant reminder to me to fight for our children. Please wear a blue ribbon…put one on your car…give one to your friends…tell them what it means. You may save a child's life! If you suspect ANYTHING is happening to your children…your grandchildren…the child next door…PLEASE ACT! If you get no response, try again! You may not hear their screams…you may not see their bruises…so check for the pain and the screams in their eyes. Watch for the screams in their eyes. |
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http://www.yesican.org/bluerib.html
I have a passion for working with children and making an impact in their lives. When deciding which cause to run for my first thought was Pediatric Cancer--Run with Team BEAR (bonus because my brother Jeff is on the auxiliary board for Bear Necessities!!! I'd be supporting kids and my brother!)
Pediatric Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease that no child deserves- but then I remembered the girl I attended to in the hospital who was severely abused and I started thinking-how many other kids does this happen to and no one ever hears about!
Researching information about child abuse, neglect and how prevalent it is I found Bonnie Finney's story and I decided I wanted to support a charity trying to prevent child abuse. 1983 April was declared the first National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Bonnie began the Blue Ribbon Campaign to Prevent Child Abuse in 1989!
So please wear blue, wear a ribbon, smile and say hi to a child while in the grocery store. Be a support system to families who are having a difficult time raising their children and being a family.
